How To Win Friends And Influence People Lesson IV: Post Grad Edition

Dogs Never Bite Me. Just Humans. (Marilyn Monroe)

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Imagine if you could see yourself through the eyes of your dog. With genuine sincere and raw happiness. A loyal faithful demeanor that never leaves. It’s no wonder they are man’s best friend!

By no means can we posses these traits at all times – we are human after all. However, what if we harnessed the best qualities of our furry friends in our personal lives? People gravitate towards dogs. Wouldn’t you love to have people gravitate towards you?

The secret of the dog is that they are genuinely interested in others. Grudges are an unfamiliar territory. They make you feel safe, and that they care about your needs and desires for happiness more than they care for themselves.

We are all looking out for our own best interest, while dogs are looking out for those of others first – or at least make you feel as though they are.

Based on this chapter I would have to sum up the advice to this:

Think of yourself less, yet never think less of yourself.

People are interested in themselves. If you focus on yourself less, and on others more, people will gravitate towards you. Don’t focus on impressing others. Start supporting and encouraging others. That will impress them more than your personal achievements would alone. It will cultivate a strong relationship you can count on – be it personal or professional.

A few of my favorite notes from the chapter “Do This and You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere”

You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. (Dale Carnegie)

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failure springs. (Alfred Adler)

If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness. (Dale Carnegie)

See Related: Lesson III

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