Compliment People – Magnify Their Strengths, Not Their Weaknesses
How often do you get compliments? Not the superficial fake smile compliments. The genuine sincere warm compliments that fill you with joy and make your heart burst. My guess is probably not as often as you hear the negative and areas you could improve or just aren’t measuring up. This particularly can be the case in the workplace – especially as a new hire or recent post grad.
Think about a time someone treated you poorly… how little did you feel? Did you doubt yourself? Your worth? It happens to all of us. All of us do it to others.
Let me suggest a new approach based on How To Win Friends and Influence People:
Be somebody that makes everybody feel like somebody – spread genuine and sincere joy.
We all derive our self worth from different sources… regardless of whom or what it is… we all know what makes us tick and what we want to hear. The way we achieve our sense of importance is significant to our character – the type of person we are and wish to become.
Think about the feelings of others rather than just your own. Value the time and energy of other people. Time is one of the greatest gifts a person can give.
Shallow flattery and negativity won’t get you far in life. Gratitude will. You will notice a change in your perspective and the willingness of others to appreciate in return. Something so simple, yet easy to forget.
You reap what you sow – what you give comes back to you.
The greatest craving in human nature is to be appreciated. (William James)
I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people, the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement. I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise. (Charles Schwab)
There is nothing I need so much as nourishment for my self-esteem. (Alfred Lunt)
The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart; the other from the teeth out. (Dale Carnegie)